I just think it’s sad that the main places in our culture that we designate to meet new people are bars and nightclubs. I have not had great luck in those spots. I think you’re better off going through mutual friends. The other thing is work and school. Those are the best, I think, because you have repeated, unplanned, in-person interactions where you can really get to know people.
I’m so jealous of people who have crushes on people they go to school with, or work with. That’s such a blessing. You actually get to see them all the time and spend time with them. Most single people I know, myself included, have a difficult time even meeting up with the people they like, be it busy schedules, texting games, or whatever.
The school/work thing is huge, because you don’t have to deal with that. You are automatically given the three factors sociologists have always said you need to build a meaningful connection with someone: 1) proximity, 2) unplanned interactions, and 3) a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other. I read about this concept in another depressing article about how you probably won’t make new strong friendships after 30."